Adult Conversation Topic: Whose fault is it that so many singles aren’t married? Men or women?
by Doug Banks Radio Show
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I would just like to know who said that marriage is the final ‘IT’ factor? What does marriage guarantee? Absolutely nothing. You can have 10 kids with someone and a mansion while you’re with them and still end up single and maybe broke too. Society needs to stop making it like marriage is the ultimate proof of love, respect, and everything that two people have in a successful relationship. That’s just it, you don’t NEED to be married to someone to have a successful relationship, therefore, it’s noone’s fault that there are as many single people as there are. Did you ever stop to think that a lot of people are single because they want to be.
Bravo…
Men because it is traditional for a man to ask the woman and frankly most of us won’t because we are afraid of rejection.
Who is Traci McMillan, I have never heard of her or read any of her books. What makes her think she knows so much about women or men. Does this woman have a PH D or anything to that effect and I didn’t see anywhere in her bio where she was a married woman. I am a single woman and her criteria is awful and misleading about marriage. I am single and I have single male friends and we are single because we know what we want in a relationship and know marriage does not make you happy. However, if a woman or man chooses to stay with someone without marrying them that is on them. It is no one’s fault if you want to wait that is your perogative, I know who I am and very confident in myself. Tell that hefa to go find a clue..
Both are at fault because were too picky and at times dont know what we want.
I’m pulling my hair out at these Adult Conversation Topics that insist on being in such a mind-set so as to place blame where no blame is necessary, to promote petty issues that only further serve to provide divisiveness, not only within the black communities, but that serve to further alienate black culture from other cultures! Why, with the power you all have, are perpetuating such confining ideals instead of inspiring people to take responsibility? Just because these questions are seen as prominent within the black communities does not make them important.
This may be the subject of another topic but I believe the fault lies in our cultural idea of marriage. I see it as outdated for the 21st century society as mariage asks demands that no longer fit our lifestyle. Women are better educated than men and work outside of the home more while men often still hold our parents’ ideas of marriage, tied to our religious values.
Its not a fault, the Black family structure has been broken. Black Folks don’t like to committee to anything (.) Folks are just Selfish. We lack the meaning of real love; We don’t know how to love. Our Standards are aften to high. Women are to lose/ these days. most men
are just afraid, because Divorce is on the high. Besides, most women want to control everything. Take notice!! These women these days are out of control..If everybody would learn their purpose in life, build on that, get educated, and get back to basic, family and love
then love will conquer all and marriage could grow and become a reality.
These people are living in la la land. People are here to form bonds and relationships with each other. Every single woman that gives in to her natural desires with a man is not a whore. Grown women have the ability to decide what we want to wear and whether we want to deal with whatever man we want. Everyone doesn’t want to keep having failed marriages like the author of this article. Grown people do grown things with each other. That doesn’t make them whorish or disrespectful. No one is at fault for lack of marriage, it’s hard enough just trying to keep a decent relationship. Why deny yourself and miss out on a loving relationship with the person you want to be with just because marriage doesn’t happen.
i don’t think its just 1 person fault because both have their on decision why they don’t want to get married, its my fault the reason why i want get married
Whose fault is it that so many singles aren’t married? Men or women?
Neither sex is completely at fault for the failure of the institution of marriage.
All relationships require sacrifice and commitment.
We first need God in our lives as marriage is a sanctity ordain by God.
Then you have to love yourself and accept yourself for where you are in your life.
Next you need to accept others for where they are in their lives, we all have baggage and not one of us is perfect. Both men and women are guilty of have expectations the other cannot meet.
Finally as life changes so do we. Each phase of life requires sacrifice from one or the other partner. There are times when both are stressed and neither can give. Men & women lack the commitment it takes to have a life long marriage.
Both. We are bombarded by media, etc. that marriage is no big deal – if it doesn’t work – quick – get a divorce! Many marry for the wrong reasons. Both men and women – black, white, red, purple – simply need to honor the commitment they make and do the hard work of making a relationship/marriage. Love this quote regarding marriage:
“When two selfish individuals become formally united in matrimony, they will still be separated mentally as long as each of them is walled in by self-love. Locked in prison cells of selfishness, they never achieve happiness and harmony together. In loving, not in being loved, lies the key that will unlock the doors of their hearts and bring them wedded happiness.”
Paramhansa Yogananda
Very simple!!