Dear Doug Letter
My boyfriend and I recently talked about my past. I told him about things I’ve done which I am not proud of today. To say “I got my party ON” is an understatement. I flirted with men and had a few nice UN-lonely nights. Because of this he now doubts I slept with more than the number I gave him.
Now he can’t even come to my house because that’s all he thinks about. He says he trusts me and knows I am committed to him, but my past eats him up. When I try to talk things through with him, he keeps saying he doesn’t know, he just doesn’t know. If he wasn’t ready for the truth about my past, then he shouldn’t have asked. Now we can’t move forward because he has this exaggerated number in his head. Is this relationship over? What can you do to make a man feel more secure about sexual mistakes you might have made in the past?