Dear Doug Letter: Woman Finds Husband Cheating Online
Two days ago, purely by accident, I found out my husband was a member of an online sex and swinger service. I unintentionally opened his e-mail, thinking the computer was logged on to my name, not his. After a minute or two of deliberation, I used the password to log on to the site to see what he was doing. I almost threw up when I read his profile and found he was actively seeking women and couples for extramarital sex.
Yesterday, I became a member of the site, set up a fake profile, and contacted him. I think I was hoping he signed up as some kind of joke at work to see who would get the most replies or something. Today I got his reply. He wants to get to know me better and see pictures.
I want to play this out and see how far he takes this. We’ve been together for eight years, married for six, and have two very young children. I never even thought of him cheating on me before this. What do I do? If I continue on with the “sting” and he follows through, I’ll be devastated. But if I call him on it now, I may never just how deep the deception runs. Either way I already feel betrayed and cheated on.