Dear Doug Letters
Dear Doug
I am a 46 year old woman of standards. I have kids, my own home and all the extras. After 2 failed marriages. I found my prince charming he popped the question and gave me a less than satisfying ring. I say again I am 46 years old. This ring looks like something that you would give to a couple just starting out. A 25 old year old woman if you will.
Doug, we are both established and I just can’t understand how he thinks that this ring is acceptable. I had to take a few moments to myself and I cried after he proposed. He noticed that my eyes were red and I couldn’t do anything but tell him how I really felt about it. He felt like I was being materialistic. I can’t figure out how to explain it to him better that this is not a ring that you give to a grown ass woman! I don’t want to look down at my hand for the next 30 and resent him.
Should I take over and pick I ring that I can live with that are up to my standards? Does anyone understand my dilemma? I don’t want to take away from the experience but I do want something special and substantial. I am worth it! Help me out.
Put the RIGHT ring on it.
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This ungrateful witch she is lucky to get a third husband. If he is all of what you say he gave what he coukd stay your but single
WTH??!?!?!?!?! Get over yourself, if you really love the guy, then marry him…who are you trying to impress with a “substantial” ring?
This woman is an immature, materialist fraud! That’s why she’s been married twice, she’s out for what she can get, she does not love that man, he should run!
If he was her prince charming then she would not care aout the size of the ring . 3rd time and still can’t get right . Should not put that type of pressure on a ring, seem like more concern about a eng than marriage
YOU SAID HE WAS YOUR PRINCE CHARMING BUT YET HE WAS NOT CHARMING ENOUGH FOR YOU TO ACCEPT HIM FOR WHO AND WHAT HE COULD AFFORD…MAYBE HE GAVE YOU THAT RING JUST TO SEE WHY YOUR OTHER TWO MARRIAGES FAILED..AND YOU PASSED WITH FLYING COLORS….DON’T LOOK LIKE THERE WILL BE A “3RD TIMES IS THE CHARM” FOR YOU….LOOKS LIKE NEITHER HE NOR THE RING ARE ACCEPTABLE!
Everyone is entitled to their own definition of happiness- I get it. But let me say, as a 45 year old African American man, with 2 children and a wife of 19 years, you may be your own enemy to happiness. If a man can go from prince charming to not providing you with something special and substantial, you shouldn’t get married. And if the disappointment you see in his devotion can be defined by a ring, you did him a favor too. I don’t know what you lost in 2 failed marriages, or what your vision of a lifetime commitment looks like, but let me tell you, you taught a man that a symbol of his love was more important than his commitment. Be careful what you ask for.
Real simple, What did abraham spend on a ring?