Dear Doug Letters
Dear Doug,
I am a real live catfish and I need your help! We met online and have been dating for over a year now. I really love this man and he has love for me as well. I truly believe he is the man of my dreams.
The problem is I lied to him about what I look like and sent him fake pictures of my cousin to support my 135; 5 foot 4 frame with light skinned to boot. I know it was wrong and I just can’t keep this going. Now after 18 months he is now in a position where he can meet me in person and is adamant about it. I had no intention to take it this far. He is the best friend I never had and so much more.
He has helped me through some financial and legal situations as well as some family trials and tribulations I know he is the one for me. He is the support system I never knew I could have. I just know that I am not what he would want. He has expressed that he doesn’t like dark skinned overweight women which is what I truly am.
I hope that he hears this show because we often talk about your adult conversations. He listens every single day. Please lend me your expertise!
Miss so fake and so anonymous
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As to Ms. so fake and anonymous:
First this sounds a little like the story of the foot ball player with the fake on-line girlfriend. With today’s technology, face time and video chat and the like, I find it hard to believe she’s kept up the charade for 18 months.
If it’s true, she should come clean as to who she really is and expect that the guy will probably jet for the nearest exit.
Starting a relationship with deceit is the first step to ending it. Now’a days it seems as though no one wants to commit and when people lie to a potential mate, it affirms the notion that it is really hard to trust people.
I think if we ALL walked with truth we can get allot further in life.
Dear Ms. Fake,
I just saw a story on Dr. Phil about a similar story of how a woman catfished 3 men to falling in love with her. She had the men help her out financially. From what I understand from Dr. Phil, you can be sued for deceiving a person for financial and personal gain. In other words, I hope you have all your ducks and attorneys prepared to go to court because that is where you are headed.
You make it hard for people like me who are trying to date online. Why and what makes you think that you could get away with this. Stop hiding behind the computer and be the person that God intended for you to be. I dont know why you think that someone is going to love you when YOU dont love yourself. Go get some classes for self-esteem.
Wow this relationship will never get off the floor once he learns the truth. Hard lesson learned, sugar. he will probably sue you to get his $$$ back.
This trifling woman can go kick rocks. I HATE a liar and that is what she did to this man for the entire length of their relationship. I have no sympathy for her and hope she gets the dumping she deserves because women like her make it harder for the rest of us when she causes a man to mistrust her..
Lmao,
This is bogus y’all. How have they not done any video chat, Skype or Facetime? He’s spending money and they have never see each others eyes? I think not. Too many ways they could communicate live on video for them not to have ever seen each other. This is some more Manu Te’o mess.
Lol lies sure catch up with people. She got to face the music. Hopefully he is a liar too, sp they can be one big lie together. This person has low self esteem.
its possible to continue a relationship with almost no face time but she had her cousin pretend i bet to help the charade which is what is so wrong but I’ve been catfish ed before believe me you live besides you never no the guy could be a geeky shut in so he may say its his type but actually would go for whatever its so difficult to no now days internet dating is so risky im a nice fun women who hates story’s like this because i prefer to date via online and cases like this make you have to inquire more then normal