Dear Doug Letters
by Doug Banks Radio Show
I’m a 40 year old woman who recently began dating a wonderful 47 year old man. It’s only been 6 months and things were going good until about 2 months ago. Recently, it has come to light he has a drinking problem. When we first met we would chill and have a few drinks together and it was cool. No problems. Well, all that has changed!
Here is the problem: Every day after work he gets drunk. And, after he finishes drinking he will call and come over and when he gets to my house he is very disrespectful to me. He has called me names like (bish), ho and the MF word. He also likes to say I don’t do -ish for him, and the things he does for me he says I don’t appreciate it. And, the list goes on.
Now, the kicker is the next day when he sobers up…..and I’m mad at him, he ALWAYS wonders why?… When he wakes up he says he doesn’t remember any of it and apologizes. Now, my problem is I don’t know what to do because I like him a lot, and when he’s sober everything’s good. I don’t know if I should stick around and try to help him, or should I say “F” it and keep it moving. Please help me on how to handle this situation. I really do like him and want to work on it and see where things go, but I’m not the one to sit back and just allow a man to talk crazy to me and take it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. –