Dear Doug Letters
by Doug Banks Radio Show
Over 24 years ago I had an affair with a married woman who became pregnant with my child! She reconciled with her husband and they raised the boy as their own. I have not had any contact with my biological son, at the HUSBAND’S request. NO ONE in my family knows I have a secret son. Two weeks ago I found out my niece (my sister’s daughter) is engaged, and the groom to be is none other than…. my biological son!
Doug, I am LIVID that my son’s mother and her husband did not stop this relationship in its early stages. I contacted my son’s mother and she swore she didn’t know our son was marrying my niece (since my niece has a different last name). I asked her what she planned to do to stop the wedding and she said she’s doing nothing! Our son doesn’t know anything and according to her “Cousin Marriage” is harmless!
My question is; how do I bring this up with my niece and her parents? I have never had any contact with my son and I don’t think I should approach him about it. He doesn’t know his father is NOT his biological father and I don’t want my niece to live in incest because of my past mistake. Please help.