Dear Doug Letters
I listen to your show daily and I especially love your Dear doug letters.
I am a white man and I have been married to an African American woman for 6 yrs. We have a daughter and our relationship is seemingly great . We don’t have many of the problems that your other listener’s have. When I married my wife she was a kind woman with a beautiful spirit who didn’t see color how ever in the last year things have changed. I don’t want to attribute it to the recent racial turmoil surrounding the re-election of our President but it can’t be anything else.
Since these overbearing campaigns that took place prior to the election she made some drastic changes. Her appearance and her attitude changed dramatically. When we met she wore extension or a weave, now all of a sudden she is natural. The non denominational church we went to was no longer “welcoming to her” and “no one looked like her”. So now we attend an all black Baptist church. I don’t know her anymore.
I know that people have change but we have another person to think about. Our daughter needs to both sides of her culture. I don’t think that she will fair well in society if she hears her mother calling her dad “Mister” or “Massah” as she has done here recently. She goes overboard with the black history teaching and frankly I can’t take it anymore.
I am thinking about leaving and taking my daughter with me. I don’t want to subject her to these racial injustices. I want her to see no color as I thought her mother did long ago. Am I wrong to believe you can’t see color? Any help here?
Stranger in My House