Dear Doug Letters

by Doug Banks Radio Show
Dear Doug,
I am forty years old and until recently a single father. A year ago I met a woman that changed my perspective in life. I never believed in soul mates but she made me a believer. I have the kind of love for her that I never felt for anyone.
After 6 months we moved in together and merged families and I proposed. Three months ago my fiancé had a major stroke. She lost all function on one side of her body; she lost her speech and is disabled. She will likely never return to work or the life she had.
She can now walk some and regain some speech but it is very limited. This has created a future that I never had envisioned or signed up for. Everyday is a reminder of what once was. I am committed for at least a year which is how long I knew her before her stroke to assist her in regaining a normal life as possible. However, I CAN NOT envision going through the rest of my life like this. I know she will be devastated if I leave; but I will be devastated if I stay. This is a tragedy no matter what choice is made. I welcome your thoughts.

Doug Banks Radio Show


1 Comment

  1. Cookie
    16 May 14, 6:14pm

    I, too have been in this situation. At the age of 30, I married my soulmate, he was then 26 (after being with him for 6 months). Two years later at the age of 28 he was diagnosed with congestive heart failure and at the age of 30 he had a major stroke. This left him paralyzed on his left side, impaired speech and impaired vision. I was told by his mother to put him in the nursing home. I did not. I did not because I put myself in his shoes and would not want this. I took care of him, worked a full time job and took cared for my two children (ages 8 and 12 at the time). My husband regained the ability to walk (assisted by a cane) and talk. But sadly at the age of 33 he died from a massive heart attack. If I had to do it all again, I would not hesitate because he was my soul mate and when you “LOVE and are COMMITTED” to someone as he claims to be, you’re in it for the long haul.. Best thing he can do is cut ties now. Of course she will be devastate, but she will survive. And for him, just be ready when he meets KARMA!!

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