Dear Doug Letters / Dear DeDe
I walked in on a co-worker crying uncontrollably. I tried to comfort her and she shared with me that her boyfriend hit her. She has been with him for 9 years and says that this is the first time and the only time that he has ever put his hands on her. I was so caught off guard that I didn’t know how to respond. I asked my husband to help me in finding the words to say. I was torn do I tell her to leave him, do I encourage her to stay and work it out. I was speechless. I want to reach out to her to see if everything is okay but I still don’t know what advice to give her or how to comfort her.
How do you tell someone that has been the victim of abuse even if it’s one time how to handle it? Tell me how to support this young lady and find the right words.
Dede in a Quandary